Monday, December 5, 2016

Forty Nutcrackers

Once upon a time there was a young man named Bob Bowen. who was then the city's recreation coordinator, who got this crazy idea for something for Davis children to do over the holiday vacation.  He happened to see an issue of “Women’s Day” magazine and an article about how to put on a production of The Nutcracker for pre-school or elementary school children. A lightbulb went off in his head. “It was a pared down version. It didn’t involve copyright so I could rewrite it (which I did a lot). It doesn’t take full orchestra. It’s just a little stage production.” He decided to produce the Davis Children's Nutcracker.  Anybody who auditioned would be in the show and he would find roles for everyone.  70 kids showed up for that first show, and everybody was cast was something.

How do you produce a show with 70 excited, inexperienced children?  They were divided into groups by character.  There was the clown group, the Russian dancer group, the snowflake group, and so on.  Each group had its own directors.  They rehearsed independently and then two days before the big show, they all got together at the 325-seat Veterans Memorial Theater and put it all together.  

Amazingly, it came off beautifully.  Well, if not "beautifully," at least it was impressive, the parents were thrilled and when 70 kids spread across the stage for their bow, it was really something.


That first show took two weeks to rehearse and only one performance was scheduled. Bowen didn’t know if he could sell all 325 seats, but he actually over-sold seats and had to turn the mayor away at the door because she had no ticket and had no child in the production.

Four of our five children were in that first production.  You had to be at least 5 and David was too young (he joined the cast the following year).

It was so successful they immediately started planning for the next year.  Now, 40 years later, they are rehearsing the 40th production of the Nutcracker.  It has been a huge part of our lives.  While they were young, all of the kids acted in it. 

When they were too old to be in the cast (they aged out at 12), some of them went on to become group leaders or to work on the tech crew.  Ned worked on the tech crew it seems like forever with his best friend Greg, whose son Brycen went through the cast, moved on to group leader and now is on the tech crew like his father for so many years.  (Greg is on the right in this photo, with both of his sons...since Greg's mother had worked on the earlier versions, his kids are the third generation of the family to be a part of the Davis Children's Nutcracker.)

Nutcracker was a big part of our lives.  When we had a surprise 50th birthday party for Walt at the theater, we sat him on the big chair Ned and Greg had built for The Nutcracker.


Jeri and Phil put a picture of the two of them sitting inside the sugar plum they had built for The Nutcracker many years before on their wedding invitation.


Our kids and their best friends were on the tech crew and always tried to make the next production better than the last.  "We were insane,” said Jeri. “We had the run of the place and we had Bob Bowen who trusted us and was willing to go along with anything we wanted to try” (like drilling holes in the stage floor and filling tubes with flour that they could blast through the holes when a canon supposedly went off).

In the 10th year, the thing had grown so large they couldn't include all kids who want to perform--it had become a Davis institution and too many kids applied, so now they have to fill out an application and they are chosen by lottery.  They have set a cast limit at 200.

With 200 in the cast, there weren't enough groups to accommodate them. In 1977 there were 8 groups of clowns, mice, soldiers, Russian dancers, etc. In 2006 there were 18 groups, including some that Tchaikovsky never envisioned, like country line dancers, bees, birds and insects, and gnomes.

When I interviewed Bob for an article about The Davis Childreln's Nutcracker in 2009, he said, "This has become a crazy institution that is part of growing up in Davis. It has become a shared experience between parents who once performed in the show and kids who are in it now.  Maybe that's my enduring legacy. That's pretty cool."

Last night, we attended a party celebrating the 40th anniversary of the Davis Children's Nutcracker.  The halls of the theater were decorated with posters from each year.


It was fun to see how many people showed up.


Ned, Marta and another veteran from the first production chatted with Bob Bowen, who long ago resigned as the head of this Davis tradition.


When they began dating in high school, Ned and Marta discovered they had both been members of the clown group in 1978, where they first met.  They have now been married more than 25 years.  Their wedding cake, which I decorated, had a clown theme.


I had a show to review in Sacramento, so we couldn't stay for the slide show, but we left the party thinking how incredibly lucky we--and all our family--were to have been a part of this very special Davis event for so many years.

Sunday, December 4, 2016

Sunday Stealing

1. YOU HAVE 10 BUCKS AND NEED TO BUY SNACKS AT A GAS STATION. WHAT DO YOU GET?
Junk food like Cheetos, Pringles, Tortilla Chips (for Walt) and maybe some peanut M&Ms.

2. IF YOU WERE REINCARNATED AS SOME SORT OF SEA DWELLING CREATURE, WHAT WOULD YOU BE?
Oh a whale.  I love whales.  I'd like to be reincarnated as a whale so I could understand the whale language and society...kind of like I'd like to be reincarnated as an elephant for the same reason.
3. WHO'S YOUR FAVORITE REDHEAD?
A rising young director named Rachel Blackburn, who is the great niece of my late friend Gilbert.

4. WHAT DO YOU ORDER WHEN YOU'RE AT A DINER?
I have more difficulty with diners these days.  I used to always order some kind of burger, but these days I'm usually off burgers...they are too big for me, for one thing.  Lately I've been ordering fish & chips (god help me if I should order something green and healthy!)

5. LAST BOOK YOU READ?
"Return to Freedom" by my friend Alec Clayton.  It's the 2nd in his "Freedom" trilogy.  I did not read the first book, but now am looking forward to reading the third one.  I feel somewhat guilty because it was a couple of years ago that Alec asked me to review a couple of his books, but until I read this one, I had not been able to get into one of his books.  He's an excellent writer!

6. DESCRIBE YOUR FAVORITE PAIR OF UNDERWEAR?
I'm a granny panty kind of girl.  Plain white cotton.  Very boring.

7. DESCRIBE THE LAST TIME YOU WERE INJURED.
I am fortunate that I have had few injuries in my life.  The last was in 2000 when I flew over the handlebars of my bike on a charity ride and dislocated my shoulder.  The shoulder healed fine, but my knee, which I also hurt, has never been the same since.

8. ROCK CONCERT OR SYMPHONY? LAST SEEN?
I can't remember.  Walt subscribes to the San Francisco Symphony.  I stopped going with him because I thought tickets were too expensive for me to sleep through most of the evening and at the time I was working for Dr. G and often had to work late, but I did go to a concert last year some time, but can't remember what it was.

9. IF SOMEONE WERE TO BUY YOU A GIFT, WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE IT TO BE?
3 weeks before Christmas, I'd rather not say.

10. WHAT TYPE OF SHIRT DO YOU BEST IN?
Mostly I wear t-shirts.  Once I learned there was such a size as XXXL, I started buying t-shirts, which I had not worn for years.  I have several elephant t-shirts (some as "small" as XXL).

11. IF YOU COULD USE ONLY ONE FORM OF TRANSPORTATION FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, WHAT WOULD IT BE?
Car.  That seems to be what I travel in most of the time anyway.  I have come to hate the hassle of air travel, I'd love to travel by train again, but that pretty much limits where you can go once you get to your destination.  I don't mind long car rides.  Except at night with lots of traffic.

12. WHAT IS YOUR DEADLY SIN?
Eating

13. MOST RECENT MOVIE YOU'VE WATCHED IN A THEATER? RATE IT.
Sully.  I thought it was excellent.  Tom Hanks as Sully Sullenberger was wonderful and I found that I was moved to tears from the first time they showed the plane landing on the Hudson pretty much to the end of the movie.  I'm not sure why it affected me so strongly.

14. IF YOU COULD INVENT ONE THING, WHAT WOULD IT BE?
That damn transporter Roddenberry promised us, so I could get to Santa Barbara to visit the grandkids faster than the 8 hour drive it takes us now.

15. NAME AN ACTOR/ACTRESS YOU'VE HAD THE HOTS FOR?
When I was a kid I had the hots for weird actors.  I mostly fell for father figures like Claude Rains and the stern uncle James Mason played in The Seventh Veil.  And then, of course, there was Judy Garland, who was not a father figure.

16. WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE CITY? LAST TIME THERE?
I am so lucky that my favorite is the one I was born and raised in -- San Francisco.  I was there last month, giving a tour to fellow blogger Kimberly and her husband.  There is nothing more beautiful than San Francisco on a crystal clear day.

17. WHAT'S THE FIRST WORD THAT COMES TO MIND RIGHT NOW?
Serendipity.  Don't ask me why!

18. WHAT TYPE OF PET DO YOU HAVE?
Two dogs, Lizzie, a large shaggy terrier and Polly, a Chihuahua mix.  They are my "pet" peeves, I recently decided.

19. WHERE HAVE YOU LIVED THE LONGEST?
We have been in this house for 43 years.  Before that the longest I'd lived in one spot was 18 years in San Francisco.

20. WHO WAS THE LAST PERSON THAT SPENT $100 ON YOU?
I'm sure it was Walt.  I can't think of anybody else in a very long time who has spent that much money on me.

21. WHAT'S THE LAST PIECE OF CLOTHING YOU BOUGHT?
I bought a new elephant Christmas sweatshirt (Santa and his ele-deer)

22. WHAT WAS/IS YOUR FAVORITE JOB?
My first big job was as a secretary in the Physics Department at UC Berkeley.  I worked for three different physics professors for 4 years and by the end of that time, I was private secretary to one of the professors, with whom I am still friends.  I loved that job.  I only left it because I was about to have a baby.

23. WHO MAKES YOU LAUGH THE MOST??
The cast of The Big Bang Theory

24. WHAT ARE YOU CRAVING?
Holidays that we used to have when we blended both families, Paul and David were still alive, and my mother knew what day of the year it was.

25. WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND?
Trying to decide how to handle Christmas.  It's going to be awkward because of who is going to be where when, but I'm thinking that if I end up cooking dinner, I might get a prime rib and cook that instead of turkey.  I've never NOT had turkey at Christmas, but the prime rib I saw on the Food Network this morning looked pretty darn good!

Saturday, December 3, 2016

God Bless Us Every One

When you’re a theater critic, this is a very busy time of the year. This weekend, we are seeing the next two Christmas shows. We have already seen two different versions of A Christmas Carol and a weird show called Prime Time for the Holidays. Friday night we see The Christmas Story (with the kid who gets his tongue stuck to a metal post) and on Saturday a British panto version of Cinderella, a traditional holiday treat for one of the Sacramento theater companies.  Next week we see David Sedaris’ very funny Santaland Diaries about his experiences working as an elf one Christmas in Macy*s Santaland.. Then I think I can hang up my jingle bells until next year.

I’ve always enjoyed Christmas stories, but until I became a critic and started reviewing stageshows, they were all movies. I don't remember the first Christmas movie that I ever saw, but it was probably Miracle on 34th Street, which remains to this day my favorite Christmas movie. It had everything, especially magic that may or may not have been real. I still get chills at the end when they find the cane by the fireplace. The newer made for TV version just can’t hold a candle.  (For one thing, it doesn't have Natalie Wood!)

I love the old movies. Loretta Young looking luminous in The Bishop's Wife while Cary Grant plays an angel sent to earth to help her minister husband remember the real meaning of Christmas. Loretta also returns as Sister Margaret, with Celeste Holm as Sister Scholastica sent off, with nothing, by their Motherhouse to find land and build a hospital in Bethlehem, PA in Come to the Stable. Sappy tearjerker with both surprising and predictable twists.


I remember when there was a station that ran It's a Wonderful Life 24/7 from Thanksgiving Eve through Christmas day. It's a good movie, but I have pretty much had it with that movie. I avoid it like the plague.

However, I can see White Christmas over and over again. I don't even mind seeing the stage production of it (which I just reviewed recently–the stage show isn't nearly as good as the movie).


I love the original Christmas Carol story versions (I specify "original" because at their root, pretty much most Christmas movies contain all the same elements--a grinch, a good guy, a little kid, an element of magic, and a happy ending). From the Reginald Owen 1938 movie version down through the Muppet Christmas Carol they have all been good. It has been performed by humans, puppets, cartoon characters, dogs and muppets. Ebenezer Scrooge has been played by Lionel Barrymore, Stan Freberg, Vanessa Williams, Captain Picard, Frasier, Mr. Magoo and Scrooge McDuck among a host of others.


I even love the silly tear jerkers like Elf...though many wouldn't think of Elf as a tear jerker, but it has a tenderness to it that makes me tear up every time.

Nowadays we are flooded with Christmas movies. The Hallmark Channel becomes the Christmas Channel from Thanksgiving to Christmas, showing Christmas movies nonstop, the schlockier the better. I haven’t watched any of them in two years, protesting loss of Frasier and Golden Girls reruns.

There is one called The Christmas Gift, though, which stars John Denver, the only reason I watch this movie. I do like John Denver, even though his acting talents were somewhat iffy. In this movie, he played a widowed New York City architect who takes his young daughter on a Christmas vacation and ends up in a small mystical town in Colorado where everyone belives in Santa Claus. That's the IMDb definition. Actually, this is just another version of The Christmas Story, where Denver's boss (the Scrooge figure) sends him to buy up property in the little town, which will change it into some big metropolis which will make big bucks for the boss. There is a guy whose house is going to be foreclosed (the Bob Cratchit character). With the help of Jane Kaczmarek, who is certainly the ghost of Christmas present, Denver magically gains a spine, stands up to his boss, falls in love with Jane, and decides to settle down in the little town. And, like Scrooge's transformation, the whole thing takes place in 2 days. Magic.

There are all those other classic Christmas animated things that I watched because our kids watched them and didn't admit to watching them because I liked them too!

The grandaddy of them all, of course, is A Charlie Brown Christmas, which has to be on everybody's favorite. (Ironically, this is the only movie which touches on anything Biblical.)  I believe this was the first of the Peanuts movies and I wasn't sure how I felt about having actual voices put to the characters I knew so well from the comics, but fell in love with it. And who can pass by a scraggly Christmas tree, left on an old tree lot without thinking that if you wrapped a blanket around it and gave it a lot of love, it would magically become a beautiful tree? God bless us every one.

Along came How the Grinch Stole Christmas and sweet little Cindy Lou Who gathered with the other Whos happily singing even though there are no Christmas presents.

And there is Rudolph The Red-Nosed Reindeer, which was a real favorite around here. How can you not like a story about an elf who wants to be a dentist?


I can really get them all in one night, if a theater company is producing the right show. Every Christmas Story Ever Told is. I’ve reviewed it 4 times now and always look forward to seeing Gustav the Green-Nosed Rein-goat (to avoid copyright infringement) again.


But (shhh...don't tell anyone)... I will be glad when December 26 comes and it’s safe to go to a play or watch TV without some sappy Christmas plot again!

Friday, December 2, 2016

Marvel the Mustang



Marvel the Mustang burst on the toy scene during the Christmas season of1969.  It was the "must-have" toy that year.  Jeri was 3 years old and fell in love with Marvel and got excited whenever she saw a commercial.  I grew to hate that damn song.

     Marvel the Mustang
     He's almost for real
     Just saddle him up
     With spurs on your heels
     No winding, no batteries
     "What horse DO?"
     Marvel the Mustang
     Do we love you!

No, that is not Jeri in the photo, but Marvel the Mustang became my guilt each year because every year they trotted out the old commercial and Jeri got all excited about it again for about three years.  She was sure that Santa would bring her Marvel the Mustang. But Santa looked at the price and realized that his elves could not make it cheaply and that her interest in it would not justify such a big expense, so he never did bring her a Marvel the Mustang.

Imagine my surprise when I watched The Today Show recently and saw some of this year's "must have toys" and discovered this zebra.  It's Marvel the Mustang with stripes!

I have to admit that it assuaged my guilt just a bit when I discovered that Marvel the Zebra (not his real name) costs $250.  That explains why there never was a Marvel the Mustang for Jeri.

I wonder if everyone has a Marvel the Mustang in their past.  Mine was a fancy doll.  I've been searching Google Images for the kind of doll I wanted and have not been able to find the exact doll.  This was the closest I could come:
 
These have baby faces.  I wanted the doll with an adult looking face, big hats and dresses like you would see swirling around on the dance floor in a period drama.

I'm sure my parents never bought me such a doll because they cost so much and they figured I would either mess it up or grow tired of it and not make the cost worth it.  But my mother must have been thrilled when she found a Mary Hartline doll.

Mary Hartline was the co-host on a show called Super Circus that we watched every week.  I suppose my mother figured that here was a doll that was not a baby doll, and was dressed like an adult, had long hair and I would love it.

But I hated it.  I thought she was ugly. When I saw Mary Hartline under the tree, I knew that I would never get the beautiful doll I wanted. I pretended to love it, but I never did.

I did have the fancy dolls I wanted.  They were from a line called "Storybook Dolls" and were dressed beautifully, but they were small and my father built little show cases for them, little wooden boxes with glass fronts, and they lined the walls of our bedroom and we were never permitted to touch the dolls.

 
What i was hoping for was a play size Storybook Doll.

We learn early in life to deal with disappointments and we learn that people get things for you, or do things for you because they love you and have no idea that they have disappointed you. You learn early in life how to be gracious and thankful for the gesture, and swallow your disappointment.  But I still think about those dolls I wanted if I see pictures or a display.  
 
I went to a grief counselor after Gilbert died in 1986.  She suggested that I be good to myself and buy something I'd always wanted.  I knew instantly that I would buy myself the doll I'd always wanted and actually went shopping for one.  That's when I realized that I was 43 years old and had no idea of what I would do with such a doll and, if I was honest with myself, did not really want one any more.  I had put away the things of a child and was now an adult.

Thursday, December 1, 2016

It's That Time Again


It's time for Holidailies again, when a group of bloggers try to write an entry a day through the month of December.  This is the 17th year that this project has been running and I have participated in most of them.  Since I update daily any day, it's no stretch to try to update daily throughout December.

Holidailies draws participants from all over the world, from a variety of ages and walks of life, covering a wide range of interests. Some participants share stories about their daily life, others write in themed blogs about everything from hiking to homeschooling, from knitting to alternative lifestyles. Some write about Christmas, some about Hanukkah, and some about ways to avoid the holidays as much as possible.

I sometimes write on a Holidailies theme, but mostly I just write the kind of entry I would write anyway, discussing the highs and lows, the good and bad, the frustrations and satisfactions of our everyday life.

What I love about Holidailies is that universality and checking other bloggers each day to read their thoughts, often finding good writers I had not encountered before and I often add that blog to those that I regularly check.  I learn things from other bloggers, sometimes information I never knew, sometimes a new way at looking at things, sometimes I am inspired by the writing of a particularly talented blogger.

I am always inspired by good writing.  John Steinbeck always affected my writing when I was reading him.  Pat Conroy held my interest in a way that few other authors can do.  Erma Bombeck was my heroine and I still aspire to be a latter day Erma, but have discovered over 6,093 entries in the past 16 years that it's more difficult to be Erma than it would seem.  There are bloggers out there who inspire me the way these authors do and I look forward to finding them on the Holidailies links throughout the month.

It's traditional to post an introduction in your first Holidailies post, which is totally unnecessary for my loyal readers who are here every day, but for those who are new to Funny the World, here is a little bit about me...

I'm 73 years old, retired medical office manager working part time as theater critic for two local newspapers.  I was born and raised in San Francisco but now live in Davis, California, a university town 80 miles east of San Francisco.

Walt and I have been married 51 years.  We raised five children.  We have two lovely granddaughters and two obnoxious dogs whom I have started referring to as my "pet" peeves.  Lizzie in particular is our dishwasher's "pre-wash cycle."


My 97 year old mother has dementia and takes a lot of my time.  She lives in her own apartment in a senior facility, but I visit her almost every day and she has lots of doctors' appointments lately, though she is healthy as a horse (just this little fainting problem they are trying to identify).


I am an avid reader, though lately have not had time to read anything and I miss it very much.  I am also a TV addict and watch a lot of crime dramas (like NCIS and Criminal Minds) and dramas like Designated Survivor, Scandal, and pretty much any medical drama.  I also watch a lot of the Food Network, which has helped my cooking techniques immensely.

Walt and I have been fortunate to do quite a bit of international travel in the past several years, but I'm reluctant to leave my mother alone for too long now.  Also, the world is too unsettled right now and I'm content to stay at home for now.

I started this journal in March of 2000 and have written 6093 entries as of today.  It is very rare that I do not post an entry a day.

I write an annual Christmas letter, which I have been working on now for two days.  You'd think it would be easy, but the computer has been giving me fits.  I finally got it finished and am starting to send the link out to friends and am also posting the link here, for anyone who likes Christmas letters (I do), or who just wants more information about the family and our past year.

Looking forward to reading more good bloggers this December!

Wednesday, November 30, 2016

Giving Tuesday


We've had Black Friday (which now appears to last all week), and Cyber Monday and today is Giving Tuesday.  I was overwhelmed when I opened my e-mail this morning.  There were thirty-nine organizations asking for donations.  And this is just the FIRST e-mail of the morning.  I decided to list them here.  Some of them I've never heard of before:
Alzheimer's Assn
The Animal Rescue Site
Save the Children
Juvenile Diabetes Assn
Samaritan's purse
World Wildlife Fund
National Catholic Reporter
Capital Stage
Acme Theater Company
Kids Apraxia
IPFF/WHR -- I had to look this up -- it's Planned Parenthood
David Sheldrick Foundation (saving orphaned elephants)
Wildlife Conservation Society
Michael J. Fox Foundation
Human Rights Campaign
Novica
Greater Tod Network (this may be a typo on my part)
Nat'l Assn of Free & Charitable Clinics
American Diabetes Assn.
Wilderness Society
Int'l Fund for Animal Welfare
Earth Justice
NARAL (Pro Choice)
African Wildlife Fund
GLAAD
Canadian Breast Cancer Fdn
Global Giving
Center for Biological Diversity
The Million Nets Fund
Fistula Foundation
WISER Int'l  (World Insitute for Strategic Economic Research)
Int'l Rescue Committee
ALS Assn
UNICEF
Charity Navigator
People for the American Way
United Farm Workers
World Concern
Animal Place
Yolo County SPCA
Movemember Fdn
ACLU
Sacred Heart Cathedral Prep (my old high school)
Save the Arctic Caribou
In Defense of Animals
Doctors without Borders
Every Town for Gun Safety
Humane Society
American Wild Horse Preservation
Oddly, there is no request for additional giving from Compassion.  Yet.  The day is still young.  I can't remember how many of these organizations I have ever, in my life, given a donation to, but not all that many.  I am more likely to send a donation to an animal group like the Sheldrick Foundation, groups that help kids, or groups like Planned Parenthood.  I sponsored a woman through the Fistula Foundation for a year and they still love me and thank me every year for my support, though I have not sent them money in a long time.  Hope springs eternal.

The problem is that all of these groups do good work and help lots of people and animals and at times like this I am sad that my discretionary income is so limited and I can only do just so much.  A list like this does, however, keep me from spending a lot of money on silly unnecessary stuff for myself.

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I went out to my monthly lunch with my friend Kathy and when I returned decided to see what requests I had received in the few hours since I started this entry.  I spoke too soon about Compassion.  They were the top of the list for the Giving Tuesday afternoon.  At 2 p.m., I had received requests from 11 more charities and repeat requests from several organizations that are already on the list.
Compassion International (offering "free shipping on goats")
Cap City AIDS Fund
All Out -- Russia
The Lamplighters
World Vision
Immigrant Youth Coalition
B Street Theater
San Francisco Chronicle Season of Giving Fund
Oceanic Preservation Society
The Future of America Society
National Day Laborer Organizing Committee
Sacramento LGBT Community Center
Bringing the total number of charities who want my money to more than 50.  In one day.  I've given up counting.  It's too overwhelming.  I'm not giving anything to anybody on "Giving Tuesday."

I always look forward to my lunches with Kathy.  It always rejuvenates me and I go home on a high.
Today was different.

Today's lunch was .... morose, for want of a better term.

We had planned a gala celebration, happily drinking a toast to Hillary's election.  Instead there was nothing happy about today, and no celebration.  We shared disappointment, anger, fear about the names that seem to be added to Trump's cabinet, his seeming lack of interest in learning anything about the protocols of the office he is about to assume, our shock (or maybe not) at watching him slowly back up on almost every promise he made when campaigning, shock at his tweets which still sound like a schoolyard bully ("If Crooked Hillary insists on a recount, I will change my mind about not prosecuting her.")  Anger that he now decides he can run his business and the government both out of the oval office.

We ended lunch with nothing to say and both kind of slumped out to our cars.  I decided that the combination of post-Trump election malaise and Mom frustration is turning me somewhat catatonic.

I strongly urge people to check out this video by Keith Olberman for wondering whether the election that Trump himself himself won was rigged and into the mainstream media for giving Donald Trump’s absurd conspiracy theories the same coverage they would receive if they were serious concerns. Olberman pulls no punches and addresses most of the fears many of us have.

Tuesday, November 29, 2016

Herc


His name was Hercules Demosthenes Morphopoulos.  Irish guy.  :)

This is what he looked like the last time I saw him, when I was pregnant with Tom, in 1970..  I had been referred to him by my San Francisco dentist when I moved to Berkeley

He's the reason I stopped going to the dentist for more than 20 years.

He died last August and his obituary appeared in the San Francisco newspaper just this week.
We knew about his death, though.  All of his patients, even me, were notified.  I wasn't a current patient, of course, but when we moved to Davis, Walt continued driving 80 miles to see Herc twice a year.  It was his day in Berkeley and he combined it with lunch on Telegraph avenue, and a round of the book stores we used to haunt when we lived there.  When Herc retired, Walt kept going to the office because he liked the people and he liked his days in Berkeley.

Herc and I never got along.  For one thing, oddly enough he had halitosis and I hated it when he got close to my head.  This was before they started wearing mouth guards.  Maybe he didn't really have halitosis.  It seems odd that a dentist would have halitosis, but there was something about him that made me nauseated.

But he also was very firm about flossing.  The last time I saw him, he yelled at me for not flossing properly.  I was so rattled that I decided then and there that I would just stop going to the dentist.
So I didn't.  For more than 20 years, until I was convinced my teeth were ready to fall out (they weren't, but through no fault of mine!) and then made an appointment with my friend Cindy (with whom I had worked at a typing service for several years while she was getting her dental practice established.)  Herc may have changed my life for the worse by his bedside manner, but Cindy changed my life for the better by hers, and I have been a nice compliant patient ever since.

But Herc was a real character.  Very socially active.  He had a strong commitment to social causes (love his shirt here, "Fight plaque, not Iraq").  He was a member of Physicians for Social Responsibility and co-founded a free dental clinic in Berkeley, working at other free clinics in the Berkeley area.  He volunteered in Nepal, Africa, Mexico and Nicaragua.

He was Walt's kinda dentist.

I think about Herc whenever I sit down in the dental chair at Cindy's office and chat with my hygienist.  Judging from the notes left on his memory page on line, he had a host of grateful patients, friends and fans.  I just wasn't one of them.


And today we went to Kaiser to see her PCP.  As expected, the doctor went through all the notes from the ER and had nothing to suggest, but she did make an appointment for a neurological exam in Sacramento on Thursday (no Logos again this week)

I think we were both in a bad mood today.  We weren't grumpy or anything, but just not really in a mood to chat.  When I got to Atria, I found her sitting across from the dining room drinking coffee with another woman.  I think their being together was happenstance, rather than socialization.

My mother didn't understand why nobody told her she had a doctor's appointment and asked me about it many times on the ride there.  She doesn't understand why she doesn't remember being unconscious and has no memory of being in the emergency room.  This is a recording.

The appointment was otherwise uneventful, except she wet herself and didn't even realize it.  That was very sad.

Her PCP is also mine and she was very happy to know that I was finally going get my lab work done, while I was there.  My own brain was off somewhere too when I walked up to the counter at the lab and said I was there for a mammogram.  Now, I am overdue for a mammogram, but I hadn't even thought about it until it fell out of my mouth at the check in desk.  So I've had a mammogram and I'm good for the next 2-3 years, the tech tells me.

Then I had the blood work done and so that is finally done and I should be good for at least several months, when they'll start bugging me to have the blood work done again.  

We had a minor potential disaster.  The keys to all the apartments at Atria are on these stretchable key chains, which everyone wears on their wrist.  We have had far too many cases of my mother losing her keys, which she usually keeps in the kitchen, but they have been found in her purse (which is stored in a different place each time), at the front desk, in the linen closet, and even once inside the grandmother clock!  I was happy to see she was wearing it on her wrist, where it should be, when I picked her up.  She had it on her wrist when we were in the exam room and when I got out of the mammogram room, she didn't have it.  She didn't even know what it looked like and didn't remember ever having it.  I took her purse and looked through it, but no keys.  I asked her to check her jacket pockets and she didn't know what she was checking for, but the pockets were empty.  I checked the purse again.  Twice.  I was about ready to go back to the exam room to see if she had dropped it somewhere, when I found she had pushed it up her arm so that it as around her bicep instead of her wrist.  Crisis averted.

But it did identify her as an Atria resident, and the woman sitting in the wheelchair in the waiting room recognized her as a fellow resident with whom she has had lunch several times.  So she took care of her while I had my blood work done.

When we got back to Atria, she didn't recognize the place and didn't know where she was supposed to go and I think was pissed with me that I told her to go into the lobby and if she didn't recognize it, to ask anybody and they would point her in the right direction.

I had hit the wall.  


Tomorrow I have lunch with my friend Kathy, unless my mother decides to pass out again.