I was very moved watching Andrew Sullivan on one of the Sunday talk
shows. Sullivan, who is the former editor of The New Repubic and five books
and is currently known most for his bog, The Daily Beast, which focuses primarily
on political issues. He appears frequently on talk shows. He is also gay, and
is often the go-to spokesperson for gay issues, especially with regard to the Catholic
church, since he considers himself a Catholic.
On Sunday, he was talking, as was just about everybody else, about
President Obama's announcement that he feels gay couples deserve the same rights and
privileges that heterosexual couples enjoy.
As Sullivan began to speak, he got very choked up. He said he
had not realized how emotional this action on the part of our president was going to make
him.
Imagine you are Andrew Sullivan. Imagine that for your
entire life you were made to feel that you aren't as worthy as everyone else, that
your church told you you were going to hell, that you were denied many of the
Constitutional rights that all of your straight peers didn't even give a second thought
to.
Imagine that all of a sudden the President of the United States says
that gays and lesbians deserve equal rights under the law. Suddenly, the most
powerful man in the world has announced to the world that you are OK. That you
deserve everything that other people enjoy. Can you imagine how emotional it would
be to know that the president thought you were just like everybody else after so many
years?
The
reaction to President Obama's announcement has been predictable. Did he commit
political suicide or not? We'll know in November, but the media is certainly having
a field day trying to spin this, like the Newsweek cover calling him "the
first gay president." I'm sure Michelle Obama will be very surprised to learn
that, as will his daughters.
If all it takes to be "gay" is to admit that you think all
people are deserving of equal rights, then the ranks of the United States' gay population
just increased astronomically. I'm sure there are a lot of straight husbands and
wives who will be surprised to learn that suddenly they are gay.
While this is a monumental and amazing announcement on the part of
the president, it hardly accomplishes much on a practical level. Though he says he
personally believes that gay couples deserve equal treatment, he still says that he feels
that those decisions, though, should be left to individual states. That's hardly
equal treatment.
I watched GuessWho's Coming to Dinner the other night, where
Sidney Poitier plans to marry the daughter of Spencer Tracy and Katharine Hepburn.
The movie was made in the early 1960s and as Poitier's character's father points out,
their marriage would be illegal in 17 states and they could be arrested just for passing
through those states as a married couple (as would Obama's parents) . That ended in
1967 with the Loving v. Virginia case, where the Supreme Court declared any
anti-micegenation statutes unconstitutional.
Now we think nothing of mixed race marriages. I hope that when
my granddaughters are grown, they will think about gay marriages the way we now think
about mixed-race marriages. What was the big deal?
Obama's stating of his personal views, but leaving final decision up
to individual states doesn't come close to solving the problem. Even if every state
in the union finally abolished anti-gay marriage statutes (highly unlikely...actually laughingly
unlikely!), it still does not make gay couples equal according to federal laws.
I hope I live long enough to see my friend Kathy's son and his
lifetime partner, who is the citizen of another country, able to live in the United States
legally. They have not been able to come home for ten years now because the partner
can't get a green card since their union is not recognized in this country. There
are a legion of couples in similar situations who may be able to be legally married in a
couple of states, but can't get residency status because of federal laws. There are
also 1,138
federal rights that will be denied gay couples even if gay marriage is approved by
individual states.
1 comment:
What's silly is that so many "experts" are dwelling on it, to the extent that none of them are worried about such "inconsequential" things as the economy, the state of the environment, or the price of gas.
Why do they think it's complicated?
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