23 May 2016
When we walked into the big hall, Walt and I commented that
we had never been to a memorial service where they gave you ear plugs.
We were there for the memorial service for my sister-in-law Olivia's
brother, Bob Castell-Blanch, who lost his long battle with cancer shortly
after his 62nd birthday.
I didn't really know Bob.
Olivia is from a large family and though she used to have big dinners at
Easter with both families attending, I never really talked with Bob because
there were always others around and I mostly talked with my mother, who
didn't know anybody and who felt uncomfortable around so many strangers.
In later years, when my mother started hermiting herself, I stopped going to
those dinners entirely. I would send Walt and I would spend the
holiday with my mother, either cooking dinner for her, or taking her out to
dinner.
What I remember about Bob, other than that he seemed
like a really nice guy, was that he was an excellent musician. He and
Ned and/or Paul may have talked about music many years ago. I remember
when he brought his guitar along and got the family singing familiar tunes.
As I sat there at the memorial, I thought about how odd it was that we were
there at all, and what a small world it is.
Some sixty or so
years ago is when I first encountered The Lamplighters. Walt and I
ushered for just about every show in the 60s and we got to know "the
regular" performers, from their performances on stage. Two of the
comprimario players, the second tier guys who may have a line or two, but
who weren't talented enough to take the major leads, were Paul Hughes and
Ray Castell-Blanch.
Many years later, when we were doing
interviews for the Lamplighters history, I really wanted to interview those
two guys who had, by that time, retired from performing. I can't
remember if I interviewed Paul or not, but I distinctly remember
interviewing Ray, his wife, and their five white poodles.
Some time after that, Walt's brother Norm began dating Olivia and at
some point I found out that her last name was Castell-Blanch. I asked
her if she knew Ray, and she told me he was her uncle. Later, after
Ray's death, at those Easter dinners, I got to know his widow a bit more.
So as I sat there at the memorial, I thought about how weird it was that
sixty years after first becoming aware of Ray Castell-Blanch, whoda thunk I
would be sitting with his family attending the memorial service for one of
his nephews.
As memorial services go, it was lovely. It
began with a collage video and ended with a rousing, tear-jerking rendition
of "Swing Low, Sweet Chariot," which was led by his daughter and others in
such a professional chorus, joined by everyone in attendance. Even
though I didn't really know Bob, I was moved to tears by how beautiful it
was.
Then came a video of Bob's last performance with his
band, the PhDs. His wife explained that he knew it would be his last
performance and that he was feeling so ill he wasn't sure he would make it
at all, but he did and the excerpt from the performance was riveting.
What a talented guy he was! He had performed with many bands in the
Bay Area and some names, some big, some not so big. We found a framed
copy of his ASCAP card with a record for which he had written the lyrics.
I am constantly amazed by how strange life can be.
Bob's
band, joined by others, I think, performed on stage for people to dance.
It was very loud, and many people took advantage of the ear plugs. In fact,
there were lots of packages of earplugs left as people were leaving and Walt
and I picked some up. We are often at musicals where the sound is just
so loud that we have to put our fingers in our ears. I think we both
saw a lot of Motown the Musical last week with our ears plugged,
wishing we still carried earplugs from our Lawsuit days. Now we have
some for the next big musical that wants to blast us out of our seats.
Before we went to the memorial, which was about an hour's drive from us, I
stopped at Atria to deliver my mother's pills and her laundry. I
really should have done that yesterday, but put it off another day.
When I got there, her newspaper was still outside and when I knocked there
was no answer. I always fear the worst, and let myself in quietly.
I could see that she was still in bed, at 1 p.m., and tiptoed into her
bedroom to see if she was alive. I was happy to hear that she was
snoring loudly, so I tiptoed out again, wrote her a note and left, hoping
she'd figure out that the bag I left in her bedroom was filled with clean
underwear.
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