The first visit to an Independent Living facility has been made, and
thank goodness it was a good experience. A very good expereience.
When I started investigating places on line to tour, it was a pretty
daunting experience. There are so many and they all tell you the same thing.
They are all wonderful, it's the perfect place for Mom and Dad, and they give you only
sketchy details and few even give you a price range. Where to start? I was
hoping for word-of-mouth recommendations.
My cousin's daughter, Denise, had already taken my mother to one
place, which my mother had thought nice, but didn't remember the name of. And when I
asked her, Niecie gave me that name and also another name, Springfield Place,
where a friend of hers had a beauty salon.
I checked out their web page and it had a form for requesting
information. Thinking I would get a brochure in the mail, I filled it out.
Scott Shreckengast, their salesman, called me within the hour. I found him a
delightful man and we talked a long time. Yes, I know he's a salesman and he's paid
to be delightful. He earns every penny. I kept that very much in mind both in
our conversations and in the tour yesterday. But the place has a lot to offer, and I
like their philosophy and the way they deal with their residents. We made an
appointment for Wednesday.
It rained the night before and was grey and drizzly when I woke up.
The last thing I wanted to do was to drive to San Rafael again, but I did. It
was one of my mother's very bad memory days. "What are we doing today? -- going
to lunch?" "Where are we going?" she asked several times, and then
"what are they going to do to me?" and "where do you want to go to lunch
afterwards?" though I told her over and over again that lunch would be included in
the tour.
And
so we drove to Petaluma, which was about 20 miles from where she is living now (and is
where Walt's brother and sister-in-law live).
The place is on a busy intersection but set back from the street.
The entryway is quite large and off to the left was the dining area. I had
been accustomed to separate dining rooms in the two places where Walt's mother lived.
This is in the middle of everything, large and spacious.
(The
piano shown in this picture is now in a different area and the whole area where the
photographer is standing is the dining room.)
Scott joined us and took us to the dining room where we were to order
lunch. He had bought a nice orchid plant for her (having asked me about her favorite
plants ahead of time). He had also dressed in a blue shirt, since he had asked me
what her favorite color was. This is a guy who works all the angles. But he is
so darn charming, you just don't care.
A woman passed by and he grabbed her to introduce her to my mother.
She is the facility's "raised flower bed gardener." She loves
raising roses and says she wants to raise orchids, but they keep dying on her. My
mother gave her some tips and Scott said if she moved here she could help the woman with
the garden. I could see her eyes light up at that suggestion.
While we ate, Scott went over all he could think of that would appeal
to her. He did talk a lot about her possibilities for travel with Springfield, which
would not appeal to her at all, since her back problems make it difficult for her to
travel and she has reached a point where the confusing of being around a lot of
people...though I can see that perhaps being in this setting might make her more sociable
again. He also talked a lot about "easing the burden" on me since they
could take her to her doctor's appointments. That would never happen
since she needs someone IN THE ROOM to hear what the doctor has to say, but it's nice to
know that in a pinch, that is a possibility. (And it's no burden for me at all, of
course.)
What I liked about the place is that all of their buildings are
licensed for assisted living care, which means that if she goes into Independent Living
and then finds that she needs additional assistance, she won't have to move to a new
apartment.
We toured three apartments, two studios and one one-bedroom.
While my mother didn't think she needed more than a studio, I could easily see that the
one bedroom would work much better, especially since she could still have Jeri visit her
when she comes to town. (When we got back to her house and I looked at "all the
crap" that will have to be reduced to fit into just a one bedroom, I think a studio
is complete out of the question!)
One very nice thing is that for a $500 refundable downpayment she can
hold a place at Springfield until she is ready to move. He talked about one woman
who put her downpayment down and didn't move in for four years.
(The web site mentions a "computer room" which I didn't see
and he says that when they finish remodeling, there will be wifi available, but not right
now--still, that was a plus for me...I could finally use my computer while visiting my
mother overnight.)
Scott said he would come and do a home visit and continue the
discussion and I think she may give him $500 at that time. But we do want to check
another couple of places before making the final decision. Still, we are on the hunt
and I am hopeful that I can get her settled before we leave for the Ukraine in August.
I developed some sort of an intestinal "condition" on the
drive home. Perhaps a delayed reaction to all the rich food I had over the weekend.
By the time I got home, I was in trouble. Walt made his own dinner and I
settled into the recliner and finally decided to "take a nap" at 8 p.m. I
woke up at 9:30, was up for about half an hour and then went back to the couch, where I
slept until nearly 7 a.m. I'm still not 100% and have asked for someone to fill in
for me at the book store today.
3 comments:
Can I ask a personal question, which needn't be answered immediately? As you say, very few web pages give you any idea of the costs involved.
I have seen one "lovely" place, where the owner, who had paid in $50,000 and then paid $5,000/month upkeep, felt that they were keeping him a prisoner. I gather that there is a curfew for residents who go offsite.
At the other end, I have seen -- in person -- a lovely place where one's social security was sufficient. I have some doubts that the ones I saw fall into the lower priced category.
I would be interested to know the price ranges in northern California, even though I don't intend to move there.
I'm glad the ice has been broken with this first visit, and that it was such a good experience. Hugs all around, and good luck with the continued search and decision-making.
So glad you had a good experience on your tour. The photos are gorgeous. And I hope you're better by now!
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