If last week at Logos was slow, this week was positively
funereal. So at the end of this, I will include a brief report about
my meeting with the resident services director at Atria, trying to figure
out what best to do with my mother.
Sandy was not in the store, as she is on vacation again.
Tosh was working in her stead and showed me the sheet on which we record
sales. During his sting, from 10 to 2, he had a whopping TWO sales.
I guess when the temps soar into the 100s (104 yesterday), the first thing
people think of is not "I should go buy a book."
At the end of my 2-6 p.m. shift, I had made FOUR
sales. I don't think we took in as much as $50 for the whole day.
Though my first sale was not until 3 p.m. (one
bargain book = $1), there were two couples who came in, neither of whom
bought anything. One was looking for "Catch 22" and the other couple
just looked and then left again
After the 3 p.m. sale, the store w as empty until 3:30 when
a guy came in, looked around and left. He was followed by a woman who
was looking for "The Joy of Cooking" and "Hoyle's Book of Games," neither of
which we had, so she didn't buy anything either.
Then two girls came in carrying drinks and food. They
looked briefly and then left.
A guy came on about a donation from his mother's estate, but
since we are not taking donations until Susan and Peter return from vacation
next week, he said he would donate his carload of books to Friends of the
Public Library.
Artist Sandra Granett, who sells beautiful photo cards in
the store, came to check our supply and move the cards we had on display
around.
My friend was the second sale and he didn't come until
nearly 4:30. He bought a copy of "Arabian Nights."
He was followed by my third and final sale of the day, a
woman who wanted "children's literature" and bought a coy of a book by Roald
Dahl.
There was a real rush after my friend left. Three
groups of people, one who searched through the self improvement books, one
who was looking for a Thurber book and a short older woman in a grey crew
cut wearing black bell bottom pants with a long tunic like top in a lovely
pastel print silk. None of them bought anything.
Oh wait. There was a fourth sale. Three young
women, one with "AWESOME" writ large on her chest, were in the aisles for a
while with armfuls of books that they were sharing with each other.
Ultimately Ms. Awesome bought a thick volume of the "Marquis de Sade" with
an x-rated cover.
A swarthy man looking very much like Guillermo Diaz (Huck in
Scandal) browsed for a long time, then left, as did a tall buxom
woman with long curly black hair and a smiley woman who greeted me with a
"HI!" and an enthusiastic wave, but didn't buy anything either.
And that was my day. Not very exciting.
The day started out, though, with meeting the resident
services director and another person whose title I didn't get to discuss the
strange things that have been happening with my mother in the past week or
so. Ned came with me to be sure we got all the questions we needed
answered answered.
The strange things that have happened, and they seemed to be
one day after the other -- first there was the day when she had zero memory.
Could not remember anything or anybody. Told me "you say you're my
daughter and I believe you, but that doesn't mean anything to me" I
stayed with her for a couple of hours that day, but she didn't seem to be
improving and just kept sitting in a chair saying "I'm going to have to
learn how to live with this." I left words at the desk that they
should check with her later in the afternoon to see how she was.
The next day she seemed fine, but three different times
"zoned out" for a few seconds where she was just not there, twice with her
eyes closed and once with her eyes opened, staring blankly at a photo I was
showing her. Each time she "came back" with a startle reflex, looking
around to see if she could figure out where she was. I was thinking
perhaps she was having TIAs (small strokes).
Then there was the day Ned and Tom went to visit her instead
of the whole family and she greeted them at the door wearing only pants and
her bra and Ned had to remind her to put a shirt on. Other than that,
the visit seemed to go as normal as it ever does.
The next day Jeri called her. My mother has set
scripts she follows for specific people--mine is "what are you doing
exciting tonight?" or "are you going dancing tonight?" along with comments
about the leaves on the trees and asking me who had brought her the flowers
I bought for her a couple of months ago
With Jeri it's "do you have a boyfriend? Jeri always
reminds her that she has been married for 8 years. This time, however,
she got furious that Jeri, her "favorite grandchild" would not have invited
her to the wedding. The unusual thing about it was how long she kept
up her rant about it -- displayed much more "memory" than I would have
thought possible. She told Jeri she was so upset she wasn't sure she
wanted to see her again and, for the first time, did not ask her when she
would be out here again. When I tested the waters the next ay and
mentioned Jeri's name, she didn't know who that was until I reminded her,
but she seemed to have forgotten that she was angry with her.
So we went over all of this with the coordinator. She
agrees that she should be checked by CT scan for TIAs and says that if they
are caused by the fall they may go away in awhile anyway, but the only way
to know is by CT scan. So I've sent off a message to her doctor and
we'll see what she recommends.
We also went over the options at Atria for assisted living
-- turns out there are 6 levels. We got a print out of what each
entails, but the print is about
this small and I could not read it, so Ned took it
home and will make copies which I can then read with a magnifying glass!!
We didn't solve anything, but we did get one
of the balls rolling.
Ned went home and I stayed for lunch with my
mother. One of Atria's more nutritious meals -- pizza, pasta, and
bread pudding. Nothing green in sight, unless you counted the anemic
thin slice of green pepper on my mother's pizza (mine was pepperoni and too
salty).
Sigh. The food there used to be good.
1 comment:
I hope that whatever you decide for your mother that she has many things to enjoy (including better food). Hugs.
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